You are a virgin? Good for you! If you are not talking to a group of teenagers or speaking at a youth conference in church, or perhaps telling your story to encourage someone else, I really don't want to hear it! Why do people talk about virginity as if virgins above 25 are members of an elite club? Have you ever heard someone boast about her virginity? It is hilarious! "Kunbi is such a slut! I pity any man who marries her. Even this guy she is dating... We the good girls find it hard to get good men. Look at me, how many 29 year old girls do you know that are virgins?" Clap for yourself! You are a virgin, but you are a professional gossip, Anini has got nothing on you, any good deed you do, BBC, CNN and Al-Jazeera are not enough to help publicize your generosity. Please, spare me! Virginity is not a status symbol!
Let's go back to the origin of NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. The bible makes it clear that sin is sin. You cannot separate sexual sin, place it on a pedestal and then certify yourself a saint because you are not guilty of this one sin. It doesn't work that way! Another funny group of people is the group that says, "I am a virgin! He can go down on me, use his fingers, I'll give a blow job here and there, but I can never have sex before marriage!" Please take a moment and listen to yourself. What is a blow job? Oral SEX! While sex is pleasurable, the ultimate goal is to bring you to a climax. So, you are eating the meat, drinking the milk, but you are innocent because you did not kill the cow? Mscheeeew!
This examples of virginity stories come mainly from my Naija friends. The society judges you and has all sorts of crazy standards. It is okay to bribe, cheat, commit adultery along the way, but as long as you stay a virgin till you marry, you are a good girl. However, the guys who remain virgins till marriage, everyone says they are slackers. Set your own standards and be true to yourself. Be good because it is good to be good. Quit boasting and feeling superior because of your goodness. Most importantly, remember that virginity is not a status symbol!
we easily get carried away and start feeling like saints once we remember there's a sin we are not guilty of and call the ones we are guilty of normal... the other day my aunty said any girl that smokes is a bad girl... and i asked her so its ok for a man to smoke.. she said yeah.. a man is a man he can do whatever he likes... i was just tired @ that point.
ReplyDelete@eclectic... trust me, I know how annoying that is! The fact that society feels it is okay for men to do certain things and not so for women. I am glad many women are becoming aware of their rights and freedom
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